Lost in Translation – 7
The Problem of Disconnection in a Fast-Paced World
In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to become disconnected from our sense of empathy and compassion. We may become so caught up in our own problems that we forget about the struggles of others around us. However, a practice called Tonglen, originating in Tibetan Buddhism, can help us to reconnect with our sense of empathy and compassion.
Understanding Tonglen: A Practice of Giving and Taking
Tonglen is a practice of giving and taking or sending and receiving. The word “Tonglen” comes from the Tibetan language and is a combination of two words: “Tong,” which means “letting go” or “sending out,” and “len,” which means “receiving” or “taking in.” Tonglen involves intentionally taking in the suffering of others, and then sending out love, happiness, compassion, and joy to them.
The Grounding Philosophy Behind Tonglen
The practice of Tonglen is grounded in the idea that all beings, including ourselves, experience suffering. Through Tonglen, we acknowledge our shared humanity and aim to alleviate the suffering of others, while also working to cultivate our own sense of empathy and compassion.
How to Begin the Practice of Tonglen
To begin the practice of Tonglen, find a quiet and comfortable space where you won’t be disturbed. Sit comfortably with your back straight and your eyes closed. Take a few deep breaths to calm your mind and center yourself.
Tonglen for Others and for Yourself
Visualize someone who is suffering or struggling in some way. It could be someone you know personally, someone in your community, or even someone you don’t know at all. Imagine that you are inhaling their suffering, taking it into your heart. As you exhale, imagine sending out love, happiness, compassion, and joy to that person.
Recognizing the Importance of Empathy and Compassion
Repeat this process with different people and situations as you feel called to. You may also wish to practice Tonglen for yourself, taking in your own suffering and sending out compassion and love to yourself.
Overcoming Challenges in Practicing Tonglen
It’s important to note that Tonglen is not about taking on the suffering of others as your own. Rather, it’s about cultivating empathy and compassion for others while also recognizing your own capacity for joy and happiness.
Tonglen as a Powerful Tool for Personal Growth
Tonglen can be a challenging practice, particularly at first. It can be difficult to intentionally take in the suffering of others. However, over time, it can become a powerful tool for cultivating compassion and empathy, both for others and for yourself.
Embracing Tonglen for a Transformed Perspective on the World
Tonglen is a practice that can help us to reconnect with our sense of empathy and compassion in a world that often feels disconnected and chaotic. Through intentional giving and taking, we can work to alleviate the suffering of others while also cultivating our own sense of joy and happiness. Give it a try, and see how it can transform your perspective and relationship with the world around you.
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Book Recommendation
There are many excellent books about Tonglen, but one of the most highly recommended and accessible ones is “The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times” by Pema Chödrön.
In this book, Pema Chödrön, a renowned Buddhist teacher, introduces the practice of Tonglen as a powerful tool for transforming fear, anxiety, and suffering into compassion and love. She provides step-by-step instructions for practicing Tonglen and shares stories and insights from her own life and teachings that illustrate its benefits.
“The Places That Scare You” is a clear and concise guide to Tonglen that is accessible to both beginners and experienced practitioners. It is also a broader exploration of Buddhist philosophy and meditation practices that can help us to cultivate fearlessness and compassion in the face of life’s challenges.
Documentary/ Video
One of the best videos to learn more about Tonglen is a talk by Pema Chödrön titled “Tonglen: The Practice of Taking and Sending.”
In this talk, Pema Chödrön provides an in-depth explanation of the practice of Tonglen, its purpose, and how it can be incorporated into daily life. She also provides guidance on how to practice Tonglen and addresses common challenges that practitioners may encounter.
Here’s a link to the video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/QwqlurCvXuM
The talk is just over an hour long, but it’s well worth the time investment for anyone interested in learning more about the transformative power of Tonglen.
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